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Relationship Quiz

A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect. Is there anything in your relationship that’s worrying you? Answer these questions to learn if your relationship is healthy or not. It might be time to talk.

Question 1 of 15

Can you see your friends and spend time away from your partner when you want to?

YES

GREAT! Happy couples can work just as well apart as together. In abusive relationships one person tries to isolate the other by not letting them see their friends or family.

NO

WELL… at the start of the relationship it might seem like you want to spend every minute of your time together, but if your partner never wants you to leave them or isn’t happy when you go out with friends this could be abuse. It might be time to talk.

Question 2 of 15

Does your partner ever tell you what to wear?

YES

OKAY… sometimes we want our partners to help us chose outfits, but if you’re partner makes you wear things you’re not comfortable with or laughs at your clothes then it’s time to talk.

NO

AWESOME! It sounds like you have a healthy relationship. Partner shouldn’t tell each other what to wear, although they can help you chose outfits. Abusive partners sometimes make their partners wear embarrassing outfits. This affects their self esteem and helps to isolate them.

Question 3 of 15

Do you feel trusted by your partner?

YES

FANTASTIC! A healthy relationship is built on mutual trust. Jealous and obsessive partners can stop us meeting people or going places, which is abusive.

NO

WHY? Is your partner constantly texting asking what you’re doing, or where you are? Do they accuse you or cheating or flirting with others? This in not healthy and can lead to other forms of abuse. It’s time to talk.

Question 4 of 15

Can you talk honestly to your partner?

YES

BRILLIANT! Healthy couples can talk to each other about anything, sharing honest opinions. Those in abusive relationships have to be careful what they say and do to avoid upsetting their partner.

NO

WHY? It might be you’ve just started this relationship and don’t share everything, this is normal. But if you’ve been together for some time, why don’t you tell your partner more? Are you scared of how they’ll react or can’t you trust them to keep your privacy? It might be time to talk.

Question 5 of 15

Has your partner ever insulted you?

YES

BANTER! Sometimes we laugh and joke with each other, but there comes a point when it’s not funny and just mean. If your partner constantly makes you feel bad or puts you down it’s time to talk.

NO

YAY! Healthy couples can have a laugh and a joke without hurting each other’s feelings. In abusive relationships one person insults and upsets the other. The laughter is one sided.

Question 6 of 15

Do you and your partner argue?

YES

ALRIGHT! It’s normal for all couples to argue but can you compromise and agree? Or does your partner keep picking fights, and won’t let things go even if you’ve apologised? This can be a sign of abuse and it’s time to talk.

NO

OKAY! This is good you don’t argue, but even healthy couples have some disagreements. In abusive relationships arguments are constant and usually one sided, one person shouting at the other and picking fights.

Question 7 of 15

Do you feel safe with your partner?

YES

AMAZING! In a healthy relationship you should feel safe and secure. This might mean you know your partner will look out for you or you could trust them with any secret. In abusive relationships one person won’t feel safe, like their walking on egg shells and at any point things could explode.

NO

OK It’s time to talk to someone. What isn’t making you feel safe? Does your partner get angry easily? Does your partner threaten you or hurt you? Or are they involved in risky behaviour like taking drugs? It’s time to talk.

Question 8 of 15

Has your partner ever threatened you?

YES

IT’S TIME TO TALK. How has your partner threatened you? Did they say they’d tell others something you’ve said, or hurt you? It’s time to talk to someone about this.

NO

GOOD! Partners shouldn’t threaten each other in any way. Abusive partners will threaten to tell partners secrets or to hurt them. This is not okay and for anyone in this situation, it’s time to talk.

Question 9 of 15

Does your partner admit when they’re in the wrong?

YES

SURE! You’re in a healthy relationship, and when someone does something wrong in a healthy relationship they admit it and apologise. Abusive partners will always blame their partner for anything that goes wrong, even if it was them.

NO

OK… Does your partner always blame you when things go wrong? Even when you know they’re in the wrong are you made to apologise? This is not okay and it’s time to talk.

Question 10 of 15

Has your partner ever physically hurt you on purpose?

YES

IT’S TIME TO TALK. Your partner should never hurt you physically or emotionally. This is abusive and it’s time to talk.

NO

OF COURSE NOT! In a healthy relationship no one is physically hurt by their partner. Abusive partners will hurt their partner and this is not okay. If you know this is happening to someone then it’s time to talk.

Question 11 of 15

Does your partner constantly text you or ask where you are?

YES

WELL… at the start of the relationship it’s hard to not be texting each other again and again, but if you feel like your partner won’t leave you alone or there always questioning where you are than it might be time to talk.

NO

YAY! You shouldn’t feel harassed by your partner or feel they’re always checking up on you. It sounds like you have a healthy relationship. Abusive partners will

Question 12 of 15

Do you feel comfortable saying no to your partner?

YES

WOOP! This is good, you should be able to disagree with your partner and say no. People in abusive relationships are too scared to say no to their partners, this might be about sex or plans to go out. It’s not right, and it’s time to talk.

NO

WHY? Are you scared how they’ll react? Do they hurt you when you disagree? It’s time to talk about this problem as it’s not healthy.

Question 13 of 15

Do you and your partner laugh and have fun together?

YES

HAHA! This is good, we should have fun and laugh with a partners. This is very healthy. In abusive relationships laughter is usually one sided and directed at one person. It’s horrible if your partners always laughing at you, and if this is happening it’s time to talk.

NO

Oh… why aren’t you having fun with your partner? It might not be a sign of abuse but it might mean this relationship isn’t working. People in abusive relationship are often laughed at by their partner, or made to feel bad but not having fun themselves.

Question 14 of 15

Are you scared that your partner will hit you?

YES

IT’S TIME TO TALK. You shouldn’t be in fear of your partner in any way and you need to talk to someone about this.

NO

DUH! In a healthy relationship neither person is scared of the other for any reason. In abusive relationships one partner might not just be scared of being hit, but being shouted at by their partner, or made fun on. It’s not healthy to live like this and if you know someone in this situation it’s time to talk.

Question 15 of 15

Do you feel comfortable being yourself with your partner?

YES

YES! This is good, in healthy relationships each person is happy to be themselves and not embarrassed to show that to their partner. People in abusive relationships have to hide who they are or their feelings as they’re scared of being hurt by their partner. If you know anyone in this situation, it’s time to talk.

NO

OKAY, at the start of a relationship we may hide parts of our personality or things which are embarrassing but it’s not healthy to pretend to be something you’re not in a relationship. Why aren’t you comfortable being yourself with your partner? Do they make fun of you or put you down? Do they get cross at you? It might be time to talk.

 

Question 1

Can you see your friends and spend time away from your partner when you want to?

Your Answer YES

GREAT! Happy couples can work just as well apart as together. In abusive relationships one person tries to isolate the other by not letting them see their friends or family.

Your Answer NO

WELL… at the start of the relationship it might seem like you want to spend every minute of your time together, but if your partner never wants you to leave them or isn’t happy when you go out with friends this could be abuse. It might be time to talk.

 

Question 2

Does your partner ever tell you what to wear?

Your Answer YES

OKAY… sometimes we want our partners to help us chose outfits, but if you’re partner makes you wear things you’re not comfortable with or laughs at your clothes then it’s time to talk.

Your Answer NO

AWESOME! It sounds like you have a healthy relationship. Partner shouldn’t tell each other what to wear, although they can help you chose outfits. Abusive partners sometimes make their partners wear embarrassing outfits. This affects their self esteem and helps to isolate them.

 

Question 3

Do you feel trusted by your partner?

Your Answer YES

FANTASTIC! A healthy relationship is built on mutual trust. Jealous and obsessive partners can stop us meeting people or going places, which is abusive.

Your Answer NO

WHY? Is your partner constantly texting asking what you’re doing, or where you are? Do they accuse you or cheating or flirting with others? This in not healthy and can lead to other forms of abuse. It’s time to talk.

 

Question 4

Can you talk honestly to your partner?

Your Answer YES

BRILLIANT! Healthy couples can talk to each other about anything, sharing honest opinions. Those in abusive relationships have to be careful what they say and do to avoid upsetting their partner.

Your Answer NO

WHY? It might be you’ve just started this relationship and don’t share everything, this is normal. But if you’ve been together for some time, why don’t you tell your partner more? Are you scared of how they’ll react or can’t you trust them to keep your privacy? It might be time to talk.

 

Question 5

Has your partner ever insulted you?

Your Answer YES

BANTER! Sometimes we laugh and joke with each other, but there comes a point when it’s not funny and just mean. If your partner constantly makes you feel bad or puts you down it’s time to talk.

Your Answer NO

YAY! Healthy couples can have a laugh and a joke without hurting each other’s feelings. In abusive relationships one person insults and upsets the other. The laughter is one sided.

 

Question 6

Do you and your partner argue?

Your Answer YES

ALRIGHT! It’s normal for all couples to argue but can you compromise and agree? Or does your partner keep picking fights, and won’t let things go even if you’ve apologised? This can be a sign of abuse and it’s time to talk.

Your Answer NO

OKAY! This is good you don’t argue, but even healthy couples have some disagreements. In abusive relationships arguments are constant and usually one sided, one person shouting at the other and picking fights.

 

Question 7

Do you feel safe with your partner?

Your Answer YES

AMAZING! In a healthy relationship you should feel safe and secure. This might mean you know your partner will look out for you or you could trust them with any secret. In abusive relationships one person won’t feel safe, like their walking on egg shells and at any point things could explode.

Your Answer NO

OK It’s time to talk to someone. What isn’t making you feel safe? Does your partner get angry easily? Does your partner threaten you or hurt you? Or are they involved in risky behaviour like taking drugs? It’s time to talk.

 

Question 8

Has your partner ever threatened you?

Your Answer YES

IT’S TIME TO TALK. How has your partner threatened you? Did they say they’d tell others something you’ve said, or hurt you? It’s time to talk to someone about this.

Your Answer NO

GOOD! Partners shouldn’t threaten each other in any way. Abusive partners will threaten to tell partners secrets or to hurt them. This is not okay and for anyone in this situation, it’s time to talk.

 

Question 9

Does your partner admit when they’re in the wrong?

Your Answer YES

SURE! You’re in a healthy relationship, and when someone does something wrong in a healthy relationship they admit it and apologise. Abusive partners will always blame their partner for anything that goes wrong, even if it was them.

Your Answer NO

OK… Does your partner always blame you when things go wrong? Even when you know they’re in the wrong are you made to apologise? This is not okay and it’s time to talk.

 

Question 10

Has your partner ever physically hurt you on purpose?

Your Answer YES

IT’S TIME TO TALK. Your partner should never hurt you physically or emotionally. This is abusive and it’s time to talk.

Your Answer NO

OF COURSE NOT! In a healthy relationship no one is physically hurt by their partner. Abusive partners will hurt their partner and this is not okay. If you know this is happening to someone then it’s time to talk.

 

Question 11

Does your partner constantly text you or ask where you are?

Your Answer YES

WELL… at the start of the relationship it’s hard to not be texting each other again and again, but if you feel like your partner won’t leave you alone or there always questioning where you are than it might be time to talk.

Your Answer NO

YAY! You shouldn’t feel harassed by your partner or feel they’re always checking up on you. It sounds like you have a healthy relationship. Abusive partners will

 

Question 12

Do you feel comfortable saying no to your partner?

Your Answer YES

WOOP! This is good, you should be able to disagree with your partner and say no. People in abusive relationships are too scared to say no to their partners, this might be about sex or plans to go out. It’s not right, and it’s time to talk.

Your Answer NO

WHY? Are you scared how they’ll react? Do they hurt you when you disagree? It’s time to talk about this problem as it’s not healthy.

 

Question 13

Do you and your partner laugh and have fun together?

Your Answer YES

HAHA! This is good, we should have fun and laugh with a partners. This is very healthy. In abusive relationships laughter is usually one sided and directed at one person. It’s horrible if your partners always laughing at you, and if this is happening it’s time to talk.

Your Answer NO

Oh… why aren’t you having fun with your partner? It might not be a sign of abuse but it might mean this relationship isn’t working. People in abusive relationship are often laughed at by their partner, or made to feel bad but not having fun themselves.

 

Question 14

Are you scared that your partner will hit you?

Your Answer YES

IT’S TIME TO TALK. You shouldn’t be in fear of your partner in any way and you need to talk to someone about this.

Your Answer NO

DUH! In a healthy relationship neither person is scared of the other for any reason. In abusive relationships one partner might not just be scared of being hit, but being shouted at by their partner, or made fun on. It’s not healthy to live like this and if you know someone in this situation it’s time to talk.

 

Question 15

Do you feel comfortable being yourself with your partner?

Your Answer YES

YES! This is good, in healthy relationships each person is happy to be themselves and not embarrassed to show that to their partner. People in abusive relationships have to hide who they are or their feelings as they’re scared of being hurt by their partner. If you know anyone in this situation, it’s time to talk.

Your Answer NO

OKAY, at the start of a relationship we may hide parts of our personality or things which are embarrassing but it’s not healthy to pretend to be something you’re not in a relationship. Why aren’t you comfortable being yourself with your partner? Do they make fun of you or put you down? Do they get cross at you? It might be time to talk.